:: is self-care selfish? ::
Boundaries. It's a common word in psychology, in relationships, in the workplace. We toss it around as if boundaries are easy to put up and maintain. 'Just draw a boundary.' 'Make sure you have a work-life boundary.' 'Tell someone they crossed a boundary.' If you've ever tried having boundaries, you know it's not that simple. Boundaries can take a lifetime to learn. They can be rigid and they can be flexible. They can be temporary or for forever. They can be in every single area of life or only in a couple. They can be instituted by other people and by your own self. They can be respected and upheld and they can be broken and destroyed. Can boundaries become selfish? Is my holding up or putting in boundaries around friends and family too much about me? What if I want it to be a certain way or I'd rather just hang out with these friends? Does saying no make me a bad person? What if I set up something a particular way and someone wants to change i